Oftentimes, you hear stories of successful equestrians who sat in the saddle before they could walk. Starting horse riding as a child is a common narrative among those pursuing equestrian sports at all levels. Common, but not the only way. 

Alena Starr, the dressage rider, architect, and founder of Westphalian Stables in Germany (a distinguished breeding, training, and sales facility for dressage horses) had never been on a horse until the year of 2011, when she was 23 years old. How does one get into horses as an adult? Are there any differences starting as a child versus as an adult? And what are Alena’s tips for adults who want to ride but are doubting themselves? Read the interview below to find out and to get inspired to follow your dreams. 💭

Alena, can you take us back to 2011 when you decided to begin horse riding?

– Horses have always been my favorite animals, but I grew up in a big city, which made it difficult to take riding lessons. All the stables were far away, and it took one to two hours to drive there one way, so my parents couldn't manage to take me to the stables. I only started riding as a hobby in 2011 when I finally had more time – and my own car. Being around horses had always been my biggest dream, and I felt incredibly happy both during and after riding through the forest on horseback.

Did you take lessons at a riding school, or were you taught privately by someone you knew?

– At first, I took private lessons occasionally. After that, I started riding more regularly at a riding club near my parents' country house, about once a month or so. A year later, I began working with a private trainer at the riding club and rode every Friday. Eventually, I decided to lease a horse, but that was only possible for a few months. So, I made the decision to buy my own horse, and in 2012, I did. 

What was it like for you to get into horses at 23?

– It was the fulfillment of my biggest dream! Of course, I understood that starting at 23 was quite late, but when has that ever stopped me? Initially, I rode just for myself – to spend time with horses and have a hobby that brought me joy and happiness. After some time, people began suggesting that I try dressage because I had a good feel for different horses and good control over my body. 

“Do what you love and enjoy the process. It’s okay to have insecurities or a bad day, but in the end, it’s about having fun.”

– Alena Starr

Were you ever scared or nervous about falling off or hurting yourself?

– Not really; I was totally fine with falling off. I think it's a very natural part of riding horses, and it was the last thing on my mind before or during a ride. I was more nervous about my first competitions because of the new environment, but I was never worried about the horses hurting me.

What was the reaction from people around you when you first told them that you were getting into horse riding?

– It was a "wow" reaction. Everyone was impressed by my decision and ambition and was very supportive. Almost everyone said they would love to ride as well. However, I still have some friends who don't quite understand why I would move from one of the biggest and nicest cities in the world to the German countryside just to live near horses and ride every day.

What do you think is the biggest difference between starting horse riding as a child versus as an adult?

– I think it's about the mindset. As a child, you don't overthink things; you just do them. Everything feels natural and like a game. As an adult, you may have more fears and more thoughts about what others might say, how it looks, or comparing yourself to people your age. So, of course, starting riding as early as possible would make things easier. I see this with my 4-year-old daughter; she's just having so much fun with her pony.

“As a child, you don't overthink things; you just do them. Everything feels natural and like a game. As an adult, you may have more fears and more thoughts about what others might say, how it looks, or comparing yourself to people your age.”

– Alena Starr 

Has horse riding affected your well-being and everyday life in some way? I imagine there is a clear 'before' and 'after' when you start getting into horses as an adult.

– Absolutely. I became more motivated and definitely more fit. I developed core muscles that you can't really get in the gym. On a typical day at the stable, I average about 25,000 steps compared to 5,000 steps when I worked in an office. So, it’s clearly a healthier lifestyle.

It’s truly amazing how quickly you advanced and became such a successful rider. What do you think contributed to your rapid development?

– Passion, perhaps? I love riding so much that I would do anything to ride every day. For me, it’s not just a job or a business plan – it's the lifestyle I dreamed of my whole life. I’m very grateful to live close to the horses, breed them, train them, and share my vision with my amazing team. This gives me the motivation to keep moving forward and to develop myself as a rider and a horse person. I know how hard the road is, but I believe that hard work, discipline, and consistency can make a big impact. In my opinion, it’s not just about talent.

Are there any specific things to consider when you get into horses as an adult? For example, how do you start, and what gear do you need?

– I don’t think you need any special gear – just a Maya Delores outfit (in black, haha 😉), plus boots and a helmet. In my opinion, the most important thing is to have a good trainer who can explain the basics really well and a nice horse that you can trust and have a good experience with.

Do you have any advice for those thinking about starting horse riding as adults but who may be holding back due to insecurities?

– Do what you love and enjoy the process. It’s okay to have insecurities or a bad day, but in the end, it’s about having fun – especially if we’re talking about riding as a hobby, not a full-time job. Having fun is the main aspect, and you will truly enjoy it, believe me!

A huge thank you Alena, for your openness about your journey! At the MD office, we’re all super inspired (heading to the stables asap).

Another person who started to ride as an adult is MD VIP Member Sukriti. She began as a 36-year-old! Read hers and two other MD Members’ stories in MD Magazine. Become a member (it’s free) and find more inspiring reads here.